Madhesi Self Hate

This is a curious phenomenon, Madhesi self hate is. It is as if the person in front of you is not Madhesi. As if his nose has gone flat, his skin has lightened up, his accent has gone different.

Madhesis who have had personal success and have ended up surrounded by Pahadis - I call it the under 5% rule - come under tremendous pressure to internalize the value system of the prejudiced Pahadis. And many succumb.

The Token Madhesi

This is when you are accepted in a group precisely because you do not talk up Madhesi rights. You allow people to say that because you are present, those others present can not possibly be prejudiced.

The Moon Madhesi

You go up the success ladder. To your community you are the embodiment of success. Only you know the hell you go through to maintain your space up there. You are fighting two fierce currents. One is from your community. How could you complain? You are supposed to be successful. Another is from the value system of the dominant group.

A lot of people resort to escapism. To their own community they become a mere reflection of the prejudice they themselves put up with. So they will tell you if more Madhesis are not successful, it is because they are lazy, or something to that effect. They pretend to be blind to structural prejudices although it is that which keeps them from fulfilling their potential also in their current environments.

The Delegate The Prejudice Madhesi

There are Madhesis who are sexist. They would like you to believe they are so because they have had to put up with prejudice themselves. So the anti Madhesi prejudice becomes an excuse for sexism, casteism, classism.

The More Prejudiced Than The Pahadi Madhesi

I have met plenty of defensive Pahadis. But nothing tops the Madhesis who do their best to outdo the prejudiced Pahadis. The transformation is so total, it is magical. They have worked so hard to deny their identities, it is like they finally smell success.

The Realistically Prejudiced Madhesi

Okay, so there has been a revolution. Maybe the Sadbhavana has been right along. There will be federalism perhaps. A few million Madhesis might even get citizenship papers. But what kind of timeframe are we talking about? Even if everything happens, and happens fast, it can be realistically assumed, in the mean time you are still having to live in the prejudiced environment. So might as well internalize it. Makes life easier. Or does it?

So what are the options? What are the recommendations?

The more successful among the Madhesis have to bear extra responsibility for the struggle for total equality. There is no excuse for the self hate. That self hate has to be diagnosed, identified, and articulated. People have to form support groups, and talk to each other.

If the best and the brightest will not face it, who will?

Verbal Martial Arts

There are only so many words, so many attitudes. Learn to hit back. Often it is some lone, sick individual. You send one retort back their way, and they are off the radar screen. It is one person versus another. You are one, that person is another. Verbally hit back. Rehearse your lines. You need less than a dozen. Maybe less than five.

Example: "Tapain ko yo pakhe mentality tapain ko bau tira bata ayeko ho ki ama tira bata ayeko ho?"

Money, Message, Mobilization

Put your money where your mouth is. Give to the cause. Identify the 5-10 agenda items all Madhesis can come around. Help others do the same. And organize. Mobilize. This is a global village. Does not matter where you are, you can still have major impact.

People, Politics, Policy

Ultimately it is about the masses. If you can not yourself be at the forefront of the necessary work, suppport those who are at it. Reach out. Call people up. Donate time, money and ideas. Help formulate policy proposals.

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